July 10, 2007
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Do Not Call
Apparently, you’re not supposed to call guests who have missed your deadline. You are supposed to have a parent, other family member, or friend call on your behalf. For us, that was about half of our guest list. Yes, half. 220 invited, about 115 replies as of the RSVP date. Of course I found this out AFTER I had already called, emailed, IM’ed, and Friendster/MySpace messaged [hey, it was an unholy hour on the east coast when I was making my calls] the 50 or so non-replies on my list. Etiquette schmetiquette.
Five days after the RSVP deadline, and we still need about 35 responses back. I’m trying to look on the bright side. While time consuming, it’s been great to actually talk to people I haven’t talked in awhile on the phone, hear old voices [boo and yay to the 'net which makes this phone hater use it even less], and catch up. What percentage of your RSVP’s did you actually have back on or by your RSVP deadline?
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i started calling ppl before the rsvp date to gently remind them to mail RSVPs. i did it more to catch up, get a feel if they were planning to come. 3 of my friends were like, “i still have 5 days to RSVP.” lol
i’d say 95% of my friends and my husband’s friends RSVP’d within 5 days after the RSVP date. About 90% of husband’s parents’ friends did not RSVP and about 50% of my parents’ friends didn’t. we had our parents call all their friends.
Hahaha. I just wrote an entry about RSVP stuff today. In cases like this, I say etiquette schmetiquette, you should be free to call. For our enegagement party, I got in touch with a few friends just before our RSVP date to remind them and I sent out an e-mail a week or so after. Even with this, about 15 % of people didn’t respond in any way, so I guess we’ll see what happens Saturday . . .
that’s a whole lot of people not RSVP-ing. Most of my mom’s friends/relatives weren’t very good about sending back the RSVP cards, but I found out from her who was coming. Luckily most of them are out-of-towners so there aren’t any last second guests. I probably had 15% (not including my mom’s side) not rsvp-ing before the deadline. I’m turning in my final number. I’m paranoid about people not showing up after we’re spending $130/pp on them.
the crazy thing is, most of our parents guests did RSVP on time. each of our parents only had a handful or so guests allowed each (yes, we’re sheisty since we’re paying for this shebang in full and want to keep some semblance of an intimate event) to follow up with. it was mostly our delinquent friends who just didn’t realize the RSVP deadline had passed.
I have never heard that you should NOT call…how are you supposed to know how many people are coming, especially if people do not do the decency of popping a little card out in the mail, that is already pre-addressed and stamped? I think it’s fine to call, since you paid for all the postage for those who don’t even bother to rsvp. I don’t know what it is though, people don’t realize I guess what the importance of a rsvp is, nowadays. Goodluck!